The equality of 100…
100 is a pretty important number. Without it, we couldn’t do percentage statistics. And we all know how we like those statistics. [Okay, I'll admit that I'm a little weird.]
We base so much information in our everyday lives on this number and others. Right now, though, I want to talk about some other numbers.
That is the number of years my brother and his partner have been together.
The number of times Elizabeth Taylor (RIP) married.
Number of marriage licenses granted in Clark County, NV (home of Las Vegas). See here.
Number of days Kim Kardashian was married before petitioning for divorce (she’s still legally married).
The number of federal benefits and responsibilities surrounding marriage. See here.
The number of invitations to my brother’s wedding I will be receiving. [FYI, I am not in any way implying he and his partner are wanting to get married, but highlighting the fact that they cannot.]
So people like Kim Kardashian can wed and divorce who they want with no legal repercussions, but my brother and his partner don’t have the right to marry each other.
And before we get into a religious debate, I am talking about the legal right to marry. They are not legally able to obtain a wedding license. Per this website, in some locations, a prisoner can get married by proxy, but my brother and his partner of 9 years are not legally entitled to the same right.
The people that can officiate at a wedding range from religious leaders to judges to county clerks, depending on the locale. I have no problems with a religious leader refusing to perform a marriage ceremony for religious reasons. But what basis does the judge or the county clerk have to refuse to officiate? Religion? Because that certainly seems to harken back to the Constitution’s Separation of Church and State concept. Beyond arbitrarily created laws, what legal reason is there to deny a same-sex couple the right to marry?
Please see this site for more concrete information about the legal right to marry versus the religious right to marry. Right now, it would be easier for my brother and his partner to find a religious officiant to marry them “illegally” than not. How is it that there are religious institutions willing to marry to members of the same sex that have demonstrated their desire to do so, but the law will not allow it?
Some people disagree with the concept of homosexuality. That honestly doesn’t have anything to do with the argument about equal marriage rights. Refusing to allow homosexuals the legal right to marry is declaring their feelings, relationships, and families invalid. I am pretty sure my brother’s feelings and relationship are as valid (if not moreso) than Britney Spears, Dennis Rodman, Nicolas Cage, Pamela Anderson, and Rudolph Valentino (all of whom had marriages that lasted less than 5 months before a petition for divorce was filed). According to this, I have a better legal right to marry than my brother, even though my longest relationship was 6 months…if we stretch it.
I find it reprehensible that the appearance of the person my brother loves is more important than the emotional bond between them. Does that mean that a county clerk can refuse to marry me to someone if they believe I don’t “look right” for that person? To me, that is what the legal argument comes down to.
I would rather attend the wedding of my brother to his partner than get a gilded invitation to a wedding that is over before the first anniversary. Too bad my chances for the latter are so much higher than the former.
I am sure I should apologize for the randomness of this post, but the sentiment behind it was sound, even if the execution was pretty sad. For my 100th post, I wanted to talk about something that matters to me on a lot of levels. I honestly have no idea about my brother’s relationship (and neither want nor need to know more), but the fact that he is told by the world that his feelings are invalid hurts me. I truly cannot comprehend why it matters to someone else what happens in his bedroom when the door is shut. Why does what happens in that bedroom matter so much when his partner is the same sex? If his partner were the opposite sex, what happened when the door shut would be both private and uninteresting. Instead, he and his partner are vilified and condemned for that most elevated of emotions–love.
And if [your Creator of choice] wants to condemn homosexuals for loving someone of the same sex…let [Him/Her/Them/It] do it and leave faulty human judgement out of the whole thing.